When you are in an intense situation like having a child in the ICU, that child becomes your priority as it should be, but your other children still need support (see Blog Caring For Your Other Children While Your Child Is In The Hospital). There is only so much you as a parent can do, but my best advice is that you and your spouse be as supportive of each other as possible and work as a team. Figure out each other’s strengths and weaknesses but don’t hold them against each other. My husband was fantastic at research while I was better at the hands-on care giving. He couldn’t tolerate the machines beeping in the room and had to take frequent breaks, while I found it hard to leave my son for any length of time. Some days he was the strong one who supported me and other days I propped him up.